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I’m posting this early, because I will be busy tomorrow! (Cataract surgery.)
So much has been happening recently that I thought I would bring it all together in one post.
I’ve gotten burned out listing all upcoming conferences and workshops. Don’t yell at me – I have been doing it for nineteen years!! So I have decided to post only things that come into my inbox and which catch my fancy. If you come across something that you think is of value, can you email me at email@example.com or, better yet, add it to the comments section of the blog? Thanks!
Anthology of Accounts of Difficulty Finding a Therapist
Jade Miller writes:
American friends: I’m working on a new project and wanted to see if anyone is interested in taking part.
What I’d like to do is highlight the need for trauma-informed care in America. I’d like all who are willing, to email me the story of their search to find a therapist that can help them with dissociation, DID, personality disorder in general, or (C-) PTSD. If you did eventually find one, please tell me how long it took. If you haven’t been able to, please tell me that.
I’m setting up a site where I will post those stories – with permission, (because that’s the point of this project) so please don’t send me a story you don’t want me to share. I can withhold your name if you prefer to be anonymous…make sure you tell me that.
I haven’t (in 4 years of trying) figured out yet how to change the education requirements in America for those who want to become therapists/ psychologists… but I have an email and I’m not afraid to use it. 😉 I will send a story a week to someone in a position of authority, asking if they know how to change this situation. Sometimes it might be the dean of a major college. Sometimes it might be someone on one of the licensing boards. SURELY if I throw enough rocks I’ll hit something good!
If you’re interested, I set up a separate email for this so that they don’t get lost in my “Talk to J8” email. It’s
You can read Jade’s post “Pregnancy and Loss in Ritual Abuse” at https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2018/09/30/pregnancy-and-loss-in-ritual-abuse/
and a review of her first “Dear Little Ones” book at https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2015/04/29/book-review-dear-little-ones/
Anthology of Accounts of Forced Abortion, Sacrifice, or Forced Adoption of Babies
I am working on an anthology of prose, poetry, and artwork about women who have been impregnated in a cult setting and lost their child through forced abortion, sacrifice, or forced adoption. Submissions by partners, friends, therapists and another allies are also welcome.
I’m seeking submissions from all over the world, not just from the United States. If you are not confident about your English, I would be happy to help you with the translation
Except for very minor edits, the accounts will be written just as submitted. I want everything to be in your words, not in mine. I’ll let you know if I make any changes.
Please use a pen name. I, as the editor, will use one, too. Please make sure you, your perpetrator, and the group which abused you cannot be identified. If you have trouble being true to your truth without identifying the group, I will help you work around the problem.
Even if you have not been abused this way, could you spread the word and tell all your survivor friends, therapists, pastors, etc. about the project? Thank you so much!
You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information. I also have a post office box now if you would rather write me. If you are submitting a piece, remember to give me a way to get back to you, as there is paperwork to allow me to use your writing.
PO Box 14276
4304 18th St.
San Francisco CA 94114
Surveys on Aspects of Non-State Torture
Linda MacDonald and Jeanne Sarson of “Persons Against Non-State Torture” in Canada conduct research to gain information to back up their activism. They define non-state torture as “Non-State torture (NST) is torture committed in the private or domestic sphere. For instance, NST is committed by parents, spouses, other kin, guardians, neighbours, trusted adults, strangers, human traffickers, johns, pimps, or pornographers in various public and private places.” This includes ritual abuse.
There are seven surveys on their website. I believe all of them are still open.
1. Abuse/Assault versus Non-State Torture
2. For Persons Who May Have Survived Non-State Torture
3. Torture Inflicted in Prostitution
4. Tortures Inflicted in Trafficking
5. Sexualized Harms Inflicted by “Others”
6. Discrimination and Stigmatization
and the newest, which concerns suicide programming
7. Suicidal-Femicide Criminal Victimization
All can be found at https://www.nonstatetorture.org/research/participate
In addition, surveys were done on the location of the abuse. This project is no longer active but the raw data is available. See https://www.nonstatetorture.org/~nonstate/research/maps-surveys
A mother in Utah shared a website I like. There are resources for parents and other caregivers on how to talk to your child about good/bad touch, setting boundaries, the right to say “no,” and other topics. Simply writen, easy to understand, no jargon. https://defendinnocence.org/
What’s Happening in Utah
Workshops on healing from ritual abuse are occurring almost weekly across Utah. They are forming in response to people’s needs and are nor planned months ahead with pre-registration, keynote speakers, etc.
There’s a public Facebook group called “Breaking the Cycle of Abuse” at https://www.facebook.com/groups/breakingabuse1/ It is for survivors of all sorts of abuse who have chosen to stay within the LDS Church as they heal.
There are also on-line private groups, to which you must be invited. If you know any Mormon survivors, write them and ask fro an invitation.
McKenna Denson is in the process of suing the Church for covering up her abuse and promoting her perpetrator, despite the the fact that she has a taped confession of him abusing multiple women. There are videos of her speaking on her Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/mckenna.denson.3 and on Youtube. (I would select some for you, but my flakey computer has no volume at the moment and its flakey owner can’t figure out how to fix it.)
Sam Young, a former bishop of the LDS Church, has a Facebook Page at https://www.facebook.com/sam.young.988926 He was excommunicated after a hunger strike to call attention to policies that shame children about sex in interviews that probe for sexual acts they might have committed.
Sam has organized “Protect LDS Children,” which has a website at protectldschildren.org/
There is a petition with over 50,000 signatures which you can sign calling for policies to be updated to safeguard children. Almost 1000 people have submitted stories about their experiences in these interviews and the after-effects. You can search the stories for the following themes:
1. Inappropriate shame and guilt
2. Childhood self-loathing
3. Adulthood self-loathing
4. Normalizing children to sexual questions by adult men. (Grooming)
5. Sexual abuse. (Pedophilia)
6. Impaired sexual relations after marriage.
7. Years of recovery from childhood shaming. Often lasting decades.
8. Suicidal Ideation
9. Attempted Suicide
10. Suicide of a loved one or friend.
That’s a lot, isn’t it? I might collect information and post it every few months if people like it.
10/31 Halloween/Samhain/All Hallow’s Eve/ Hallomas/ All Souls Day/Start of the Celtic new year.
11/1 All Saints’ Day
11/22 US Thanksgiving
11/23 Full Moon
12/21 Yule/Winter Solstice
12/22 Full Moon
12/24 Christmas Eve
12/25 Christmas Day
12/31 New Year’s Eve
Dates important to Neo-Nazi groups
(Some groups also mark Candlemas, Beltane, Lamas, Halloween, the solstices and the equinoxes)