Easter and a Lot of Other RA/MC-Related Things


Well, we are swinging into Easter. Pretty soon, the supermarkets will be stocked with cute little marked-down chocolate bunnies and rows of pastel Peeps. The M&Ms will still be full price. It will be OVER for another year!

And this year, there will be a full moon the day before Easter.

I looked up its spiritual meaning. It is called the Pink Moon, not because it is pink, which it isn’t, but because a North American wildflower called pink moss phlox comes into bloom around this time. It’s really pretty. A badly neglected front yard in my neighborhood has some that bloom in the spring and through most of the summer, and the yard is gorgeous for a few months.

“(This April) full moon is set to catalyze harmonious new beginnings in our lives and help us clear away any imbalances that are disrupting our personal flow.” “As the first full moon of the astrological new year, this is a powerful time to ramp up the energy on our current goals and leave the darkness behind to make room for fresh springtime growth. New beginnings are everywhere.” https://www.bustle.com/life/spritual-meaning-april-2022-full-pink-moon-libra

That’s nice and uplifting but doesn’t resonate for me, given it comes on Easter Eve. I hope they are right – my current goals could use some energy, and I wouldn’t mind leaving some darkness behind. Not in the least.

I hope that all of you get safely through to a week from tomorrow. If you are having flashbacks, I hope you can keep one foot in the present long enough to realize that these are memories and that the overwhelming feelings are those of a very young child who was you. The flashback is happening today, but what happened to you back then is not happening now.

If you feel numb and don’t care about anything, I hope you can see this as a helpful reaction. It protects you from being flooded by all the images, feelings, and destructive urges lying beneath the blanket of disconnection. Trust that it will lift soon.

And if some who are reading this are still being abused, I am so very, very sorry.

I hope you can remember that escape is a process, not an event. The fact that you have found this blog and are reading it tells me that you are on the track to freedom. Know that you are brave and persistent. I hope you find permanent safety soon and that you believe that none of the steps you have already  taken toward freedom will have been in vain.


I Need Some Help!

I am looking for somebody to help me find a free mailing list for GrassRoots. I am doing it manually, which is tedious and time-consuming. At least I know how to do it! 

I know the mailing list of my dreams is out there. I just need to find it and have somebody hold my hand while I set it up. Once I am started, I should be fine. Is anybody reading this in a position to help? I am smart, pleasant, grateful, but not nearly techie enough to do it alone.

Make my day/week/month and leave a comment!


Trauma-informed Dentistry

Some of you may remember that I recently had a horrid flashback in the dental chair. I got some good information from it, and I also got an opportunity to practice self-care, assertiveness, and boundary setting. Plus which, I put together a beginner’s bibliography on working with anxious patients who have been traumatized as children. 

All l this made me miss my former dentist terribly. He was also an LMFT, a musician, an artist, a mountain climber, and an old hippie. But he went and retired on me. 

Somebody, I forget who, sent me this link. Whoever you are, I and hundreds of others thank you very much! https://zaksdental.com.au/trauma-informed-dental-care-adult-survivors-sexual-assault/

Shaonne Zaks, a dentist from Melbourne, Australia, has made three videos for dentists and two for survivors. There are also seven videos with tips from sexual abuse survivors. I had already figured out everything the survivors were sharing, but Dr. Zaks’ videos were helpful.

Wish I lived in Melbourne! 


New Drop-in Group for RA/MC Survivors Starting Soon

A drop-in support group called “Cupp of Hope” (Connection and Understanding With Phenomenal People) is a ZOOM group by and for RA/MC survivors. It will be facilitated by Joanie and Sharri. Registration will be through Eventbrite. Drop by for a Cupp of hope and healing! 

The group will meet on Wednesday evenings from 4 to 5:30 PT. 
Watch https://grassroots-ra-mc-collective.org/events/ for the starting date


Next Poetry Reading

RA/MC Survivors Read Their Poems Of Suffering And Healing
June 25, 4:00 pm Pacific Time – June 26, Australia
GrassRoots invites you all to its first themed poetry event, where you get to read to read your own poetry. The theme is “Being Victimized/Surviving/Living Fully.”
Write a poem on one, two, or all three topics, and bring it to the event. You may also express yourself through artwork or song. If you would like to present your work, come prepared to share for up to 3 minutes. You can come and just listen if you want. 
We hope to see many of you there! Register at https://grassroots-ra-mc-collective.org/events/


Restoration in Christ Ministries Webinar

“Ancestral Bondages”
Topics to be covered include: Generational inheritances for ritual abuse survivors, Ancestral barter/bargains, Ancestral dedications, Sale of birthrights, How to break ancestral covenants, How to address Ancestral spirit issues.
April 23, 2022
12:00 – 2:00 PM Eastern Daylight Time
Information and Registration: 


Free Coloring Apps 

For all those, inside and out, adults and children, who find pleasure in coloring. Although this isn’t about ritual abuse, it’s a great way to deal with RA/MC-induced stress!



Upcoming Holidays

4/10 Palm Sunday
4/14 Maundy Thursday (commemoration of the Last Supper)
4/15 Good Friday
4/16 Holy Saturday
4/16 Full Moon
4/17 Easter Sunday
4/26 Grand Climax/De Meur
4/30 Partial solar eclipse visible in west South America and Antarctica.  https://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/solar/2022-april-30
4/30 Walpurgisnacht/May Eve

5/1 Beltane
5/8 Mothers’ Day
5/15 Full Moon
5/15 – 5/16 Total lunar eclipse visible in south and west Europe, south and west Asia, Africa, much North America, South America, and Antarctica. https://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/lunar/2022-may-16
5/21 (?) Armed Forces Day
5/26 (?) Ascension Day
5/30 Memorial Day

6/5 Pentecost
6/6 (?) Whit Monday
6/12 (?) Trinity Sunday
6/14 Full Moon
6/16 (?) Corpus Christi/Feast of the Body of Christ
6/19 Fathers’ Day
6/21 Summer solstice
6/23 Midsummer’s Eve

6/24 (?) St John’s Day


Dates Important to Nazi and Neo-Nazi groups

4/15-4/23 Passover/Pesach (Celebration of the deliverance of the Jewish people from slavery in Egypt.)
4/30 Anniversary of Hitler’s death
6/4 – 6/6  Shavuot (Harvest Festival, Festival of Moses receiving the Ten Commandments)

(NOTE: Not all groups meet on Jewish holidays. Some groups also mark andlemas, Beltane, Lammas, Halloween, the solstices, and the equinoxes.)


You can find more information on the following holidays at:

Candlemas – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/01/21/candlemas/
Valentine’s Day – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/02/10/valentines-day/
Spring Equinox – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/02/13/the-spring-equinox/
Easter: personal (for background, see Spring Equinox) – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2014/04/21/easter-blues/
Walpurgisnacht/May Eve – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2017/04/20/walpurgisnacht/
Beltane – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/beltane/
Mothers’ Day – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/04/26/mothers-day/
Fathers’ Day – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2020/06/20/ritual-abuse-and-fathers-day/
Summer Solstice (corrected text) – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/06/15/well-this-is-embarrassing/
Lammas – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/category/lamas/
and https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/07/23/august-ritual-dates/ 
Feast of the Beast/Bride of Satan: Part 1 – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/08/31/the-feast-of-the-beast/
Feast of the Beast/Bride of Satan: Part 2 – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2017/03/20/feast-of-the-beast-part-ii/
Fall Equinox – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/09/16/the-fall-equinox/
Halloween (personal) – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/10/11/halloween/ 
Halloween (background) – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2011/10/02/samhainhalloween/
Thanksgiving – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/11/20/thanksgiving/
Yule/Winter Solstice – https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/12/15/yulewinter-solstice/ 

6 thoughts on “Easter and a Lot of Other RA/MC-Related Things

  1. Thank you Jean! This helps a lot. It’s always been strange that I never had real surprises, few presents, normal birthdays, chocolate cakes or parties, but the parents did get me store bought easter baskets.


  2. Thank you Jean!  Love all the links, options, thoughts, ideas.  Bless for continuing this blog. It has been a blessing to me from day one.Such a company for me.  Thank you I’ll see you at the poetry reading! Rebecca

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    1. Oh gosh, thank you. Thanks everybody who writes and lets me know they liked something, disagreed with something, found a typo, or have been reading for years. It makes me know that my voice is being heard and that pple are finding useful ideas and resources.

      When I was running Survivorship, I got practically zero feedback and most of it was bringing a problem to my attention. It was the first time I had been out there in the community except in a 1:1 capacity and so I didn’t find it abnormal. Now I don’t know which response is normal, maybe something in between?

      Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that every comment fills me up and I am so grateful for all of you and for the feedback you give me!

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