Flashbacks in the Time of Coronavirus

* You can find more information on the following holidays at:

Summer Solstice (corrected text): https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/06/15/well-this-is-embarrassing/
Lammas: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/category/lamas/
August Ritual Dates: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/07/23/august-ritual-dates/
Feast of the Beast/Bride of Satan: Part 1: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/08/31/the-feast-of-the-beast/
Feast of the Beast/Bride of Satan: Part 2: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2017/03/20/feast-of-the-beast-part-ii/
Fall Equinox: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/09/16/the-fall-equinox/
Halloween (personal): https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/10/11/halloween/
Halloween (background): https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2011/10/02/samhainhalloween/
Thanksgiving: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/11/20/thanksgiving/
Yule/Winter Solstice: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/12/15/yulewinter-solstice/
Candlemas: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/01/21/candlemas/
Valentine’s Day: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/02/10/valentines-day/
Spring Equinox: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2012/02/13/the-spring-equinox/
Easter: (personal): (for background, see Spring Equinox) https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2014/04/21/easter-blues/
Walpurgisnacht/May Eve: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2017/04/20/walpurgisnacht
Beltane: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/beltane/
Mothers’ Day: https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2016/04/26/mothers-day/

* So nice to be able to think about something other than myself!

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I was talking to a friend the other day and said that I see flashbacks as layered, one on top of another. The simile I used was that of nested Russian dolls. Each doll is larger than the previous one because it has to contain all the smaller dolls.

So it is with my flashbacks. When I was three, they did something awful to me. When I was four, they did something similar, and I had a flashback to what they had done the year before. Therefore, I had to deal with the terror of both the present and the past at the same time.

When a similar thing was done to me once again, my experience included the emotions from the two previous events as well as from whatever was going on in the present.

The layering of flashbacks explains why holidays are so very intense. Similar things were done on the same day year after year after year. It also explains why spring seems like a series of unhappy days, and no one day stands out as unbearable. Easter wanders around, and the flashbacks are spread out, not concentrated on one particular date.

With holidays, it’s easy to figure out what I am flashing back to. But with this virus, it takes work to make sense of my feelings. The things that are happening to me are not sharp or painful, and they do not seem to have Satanic (or pornographic) connotations. They are diffuse – they develop over time.

Take cabin fever, for example. The first couple of days I didn’t experience any cabin fever at all. Then one day, there was a twinge of resentment when I wanted to go out and didn’t. Now I have been pent up for so long (85 days) that I have regressed to being agoraphobic.

So let’s say staying at home all the time is the biggest Russian doll? What is inside her?

1. Helplessness
2. Fear of dying a horrible death
3. Not believing this is happening
4. No physical contact with other people
5. Not being able to choose the food I want
6. Fear I will forget how to breathe

The first three items are very general. The present-day emotion could be stirring up emotions from any number of different cult events. From just about all of them, as a matter of fact! The best I can do is say to myself, “Yes, I used to feel this way a lot as a kid. But this is very different. No adult is hurting me – it’s precautions that I am taking to stay safe from a virus. It’s not the same at all.” That is good enough, for sure.

The last three items bring up instant images from my childhood. My mother used to push me away, not wanting to touch me. When I had trouble eating something (because I was in flashback), I was left sitting at the table alone, staring at the food on my plate. I had been told that I could not leave until I ate it. I either finally managed to choke it down, or it was removed and given to me again at breakfast. The final one reminds me of lying in bed, wide awake, afraid to fall asleep for fear I would “forget” how to breathe. This fear did not occur before I was about eight, so that must have been a period when I was repeatedly being suffocated.

At times it feels like my experience of sheltering-in-place is buoyed by a sea of flashbacks. They come and go, like ripples on the surface of the water. Their number seems infinite, wide and deep as the ocean, and their variety also seems infinite. Just as it is impossible to see one molecule of water, I cannot grasp one flashback, isolate it, and examine it apart from all the others floating through my consciousness. I try, of course, despite the confusion.

In struggling to untangle past from present, it helps me to review the B.A.S.K. model of flashbacks, developed by Bennett Braun over twenty years ago. (Bennett BraunDissociation (1998) Vol.1, No.1, pp.4-23.) It’s just as useful today as it was then. You can read the whole article (and then browse every issue of Dissociation) at https://scholarsbank.uoregon.edu/xmlui/handle/1794/1276.

Braun organizes flashbacks into four categories.

B stands for behavior. If you repeat something in the present that you did in the past, that’s a behavior flashback. Therapists often call this “acting out” because you are acting out a scene from the past.

An example might be walking into the kitchen and picking up a knife, not knowing why you are doing this. It’s a repetition of past behavior; during the time you were being abused, you may have picked up a knife and then dissociated. The knowledge of what came afterward is not available to you anymore. Another example is more complex and involves trying to “save” people over and over again because you tried and failed to protect other children in the cult.

A is for affect, the fancy word for emotions. Dissociated emotions can come back and reappear in the present. They are real emotions, and you are really feeling them. They just belong to something that happened in the past. Something in the present that evokes the same emotion has triggered the return of the past, dissociated emotions.

S is sensory. You can have flashbacks of memories recorded by any of your senses. Sight, sound, smell, touch, pressure, hot/cold, pain, and proprioception (the sense of where your body is in space.)

Finally, K stands for knowledge. That’s when you just know something, but don’t know how you know it. I open my mouth, and something comes out. I think, “Now, where did that come from?” I have no idea, but I just know it is true. It’s a little spooky, and it is hard to explain away as belonging to the present.

Even though I read that article twenty-two years ago, I still use the B.A.S.K. model to sort out my thoughts when I am in flashback. I hope it may help you, too.

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Upcoming Holidays

May
5/31 Pentecost

June
6/5 Full moon
6/5-6 Penumbral lunar eclipse. The moon will turn a shade darker during the maximum phase, visible in Asia, Australia, Europe, and Africa. Most penumbral lunar eclipses cannot be easily distinguished from a usual full moon. See https://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/map/2020-june-5
6/19 Summer solstice
6/21 Fathers’ Day
6/21 Annular solar eclipse. Visible from parts of Africa (including the Central African Republic, Congo, and Ethiopia), south of Pakistan, northern India, and China. Partial eclipse is visible in south/east Europe, much of Asia, the north of Australia, and much of Africa, Pacific, Indian Ocean. See https://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/map/2020-june-21
6/23 Midsummer’s Eve
6/24 St. John’s Day

July
7/4 Independence Day
7/4 Full moon
7/4-5 Penumbral lunar eclipse. The moon will turn a shade darker during the maximum phase, visible in North and South America, and Africa. Most penumbral lunar eclipses cannot be easily distinguished from a usual full moon. See https://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/map/2020-july-5
7/25 St. James’ Day/Festival of the Horned God

August
8/1 Lammas/Lughnasadh
8/3 Full moon
8/15 Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary
8/24 St. Bartholomew’s Day

Dates Important to Nazi and Neo-Nazi groups
6/6 D-Day: invasion of France in WW2
7/30 Tisha B’Av (Day of Mourning)
7/29 Hitler proclaimed leader of the Nazi party

(NOTE: Not all groups meet on Jewish holidays. Some groups also mark Candlemas, Beltane, Lammas, Halloween, the solstices and the equinoxes.)
 

11 thoughts on “Flashbacks in the Time of Coronavirus

  1. Hi Jeannie, you wrote “I don’t think the amitriptylin is working. You should have seen results in 3-4 weeks and it has been eight months.”

    But in my comment I actually wrote “I think i have got some of these results even today.” .

    Yes, I had. It had been about the same results as in 1969…

    They have tried different kind of meds at me, but no one has worked. So i thought about Tryptizol, as the name was then, and i got the idea to ask for it.

    I thouht they would answer no, since some of my arguments were built much on nostalgia. Well, the first argument I had was rational, that i had quite good results then, in 1969, But the secind i used was that if get a chemical substance in me i have had in 1969 and 1970 iI may get associations to these two years, from a very period (about 1967-1970) that propably was the best in my life.

    The doctor looked sceptcal and said that this was a quite old-fasioned med, but after a quarter of an hour i have persuaded her…

    Since it is the only med thar have had some clearly positive effects on my psyche since the early 70:s i don´t want to change it too soon…

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    1. I misunderstood. I thought the medication was just starting to show results and having to wait all that time, I thought that was unacceptable.

      Instead, it has been working for months. You meant that the results were the same as back in 1969.

      That is wonderful!!! I am very happy for you.

      I hope that it prevents you from obsessing over unpleasant things and that you are able to take pleasure in your many accomplishments.

      Folks, Erik is the voice for ritual abuse survivors in Sweden. He has been the only person who has spoken out about RA, and he has done things year after year. It is his life’s work. That s why I hope that this tricyclic antidepressant allows him to see the value of what he does.

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  2. Thank you for posting this. You have a capability to analyze your own fears even whne they are intense. And even when the situation realy is dangeropus. I am very much woried for you, often thinking of you, and very much hope that you can manage to avoid being infected – until they have created a vaccine!

    I don´thnk I myself belong to a risk group. I am 65, but have no major diseases that could make me vunerable, as far as i know. ‘

    But the fact that i in three monhs have have had no body contakt whatsoever wint anyoine, and that i during these these months Ionly had met other people I know three times ((and very shortly) (one person two times, one person once) IRL is gradually undermining my sense of living in a real wolrd.. Is is as i lved in a history book about the black plague. Everything fees umreal and i often think l “this could certainly not happen”!

    I have flashbacks too, but that i´s not view. What is new is the terryfying feeling when you never ever touch anyone and almost never could meet anyone IRL.

    In october I finally got a med against depression, amitriptylin It was I who suggested it, because i took that when i was 14-15, and then it led to make me more active, and more sure that my own views could be right – berore i always had obessional thougts that I ialways were wrong).

    I think iI have got some of these results even tiday. .

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    1. Greetings from one hermit to another, across two continents and one ocean!

      Please don’t worry about me. I have taken so many precautions that it is positively neurotic. and I plan to continue, even now that they are lifting some restrictions.

      Being 65, in itself, is a risk.

      I really understand what you mean by “everything feels unreal and I often think “this could certainly not happen”! It reminds me of the feeling that it could not be possible that I lived through ritual abuse, that it is only a fairy tale, and that I am making it up. The stress of the present situation flips us back into our early defenses.

      I know you did not ask for advice, but I am giving you some anyway.

      I don’t think the amitriptylin is working. You should have seen results in 3-4 weeks and it has been eight months. Unfortunately, just because an antidepressant works once, doesn’t mean it will work again. Your body has changed in the last fifty years!

      Also, the newer medications have far fewer side effects. I would like to suggest Wellbutrin (buproprion is the generic name here). In Europe it is used to help people stop smoking, but IMO it is a truly excellent antidepressant. It works on dopamine as well as serotonin and I believe that is why I have found it more effective than the SSRI’s. I have taken both Prozac and Effexor, and while they worked, they had more side effects and did not work as well against the depression.

      I don’t have obsessive-compulsive disorder and don’t know if it is helpful for that condition. I do have obsessive thoughts – guilt, suicidality, self-loathing – when depressed and it helps tremendously.

      So – it might be time to discuss this again with your doctor. Let us know what you decide!!!!

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