Memories: True or False?

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Memory is often thought of in black or white terms. “Is it accurate, or did I imagine it?” “Yes, it’s true – no, it’s false.” But the real truth of a memory is, “it depends.”

Let’s look at some of the things that affect the accuracy of a memory – everybody’s memories.

Most important is your perception of an event. If you are a little kid and see a person in a gorilla suit, you might think it is a real gorilla. You will then remember seeing a real live gorilla. Not in the zoo, but out on the street or running around a football field at half-time.

So is this memory true or false? Both! You don’t remember what you actually saw, you remember what you thought you saw.

When I was four, they took me to see Bambi, and I was devastated when the forest started burning. A few months later, in a vulnerable state, having been separated from my beloved caretaker, my dog, and most of my toys, I was taken on a sleeper train to my grandfather’s summer home. (I have ritual abuse memories from that summer.) On the way home, on the same train, I stared out the window, watching as dusk turned to night.

I never forgot the train racing through burning woods and my fear that the flames would engulf the train and I would die, as the forest animals had died, in the fire. If this had actually happened, it would have been talked about and become part of the family history. Later, I could have researched it in newspaper archives. But it wasn’t a real fire I remembered. It was an imagined fire that blended the scene from Bambi, scraps of things I had heard of forest fires, my intense fear and rage, and a sense of imminent death.

Was this memory true or false? Both! It was not a memory of an actual event, but it was was a true memory, accurate in every detail, of what I saw in my mind’s eye as I was carried towards an unknown fate.

Another time I believed that a memory was a fantasy and it turned out to be of a real event. I was sitting in my high chair, and my mother was sitting in a chair a few feet away. I was playing with the most beautiful thing – a paper circle with pins with colored glass heads stuck all around the edge of the ring. This couldn’t be true, because I doubted I could remember that far back, and because nobody would be dumb enough to give a baby fifty sewing pins to play with. Years later, when I mentioned this to my mother, she said it was indeed true, and that she was sitting right there watching me so I couldn’t get hurt.

Sometimes memories change a little each time we think about them. They evolve over time, like a good story. This kind of drift is normal. Sometimes they get fuzzier, especially if we don’t think about them very often. Our minds aren’t like cameras, recording every detail for posterity.

Now let’s look at some of the effects that extreme abuse, like ritual abuse, has on memory.

Most important is that trauma memories get stored differently in the brain from ordinary memories. Different parts of the memory get stored in different places. Sometimes it is the beginning, middle, and end of the event that are separated from each other. Sometimes it is sight, sound, emotion, etc. that get separated. Each time the brain encounters trauma, it reacts the same way, until it becomes the brain’s default setting. If the splitting is extreme, alters are formed, and different parts of the memories are stored by different alters.

Many survivors’ memories are of what they believed at the time, rather than what actually happened. Children are easily tricked; they are naive and do not have the experience to tell lies from truth. Children desperately want to believe that adults know more than children do and that adults tell the truth. And their abusers are masters of deception who carefully plan how to trick children into believing what they want them to.

Finally, it is because the trauma they suffered is horrendous. If your whole body is wracked by pain, if you have been given hallucinogens, if you are terrified that you are about to be killed, there is very little brain-power left over to figure out whether something is real or not. Especially if you are only three years old.

When memories first surface, they can be very confusing. It takes time to figure out what they are all about. It takes courage to hold on to the belief that you would not be seeing these images if nothing terrible had happened. It takes time and patience to learn to be aware that you are in the present, not back then when all those crazy things were happening. When you have one foot solidly in the present and the other in the past, then you can look at your memory with adult eyes and figure out if you were tricked as a child, and if so, how.

Slowly, things start to make sense. You gradually start to believe you are not crazy. You start to believe in yourself, in your own judgment, your own intuition. This is called healing!

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11/11 (?) Veterans’ Day
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Dates Important to Nazi and Neo-Nazi groups
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7 thoughts on “Memories: True or False?

  1. This post really properly scares me.
    Not your fault! But I’m smack in the middle of not believing my memories (or sometimes it feels as if some parts of me are made to deny and question everything)
    Yet, they keep coming up and are not going away. Vicious cycle and scary, because what if my memories (or the things that keep popping up) are indeed not real and I just have a really vivid imagination
    Or what if I’m made to think I made everything up?
    Things have to be black and white.
    But maybe that is just me, I don’t know.
    I’m filing this post away in my head for when things clear up a bit.

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    1. I’m sorry it jolted you this way. Maybe this will put things in perspective,

      In the beginning, I felt pretty much as you do. I ping-ponged between yes it’s true, no I’m crazy for several years. I still go back there sometimes when I am dealing with something heavy.

      The post, basically, contains stuff I have learned from reading and from my personal introspection. I can live with it because I have passed through the yes/no phase and. most days I KNOW that I was raised to be a Satanist and was used for government/academic mind control experimentation. There are things I still don’t know, and details may be fuzzy or distorted, but I am okay with that. I am sure about the big picture.

      Maybe this will help —

      When I fall back into doubting it never happened, I tell myself, “RA is just a hypothesis. When I think of a better one, one that explains all my symptoms, I will discard the RA hypothesis and work with the slowly growing brain tumor hypothesis, or whatever hypothesis comes up.” It gives me permission to doubt. When I get used to the new memory that triggered the doubt, I sadly agree that RA is still the best explanation. I think that putting the decision off in this way takes the pressure off me and allows me to not make up my mind on the spot, when I am all panicky.

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  2. I have many experiences of memories which i an sure are true. but seems wrongly located in time or space.

    An example is a conversation I had with my brother in spring 1971. The memory is not traumatic, and it is not recovered, but the conversation touched att least indirectly on some very traumatic stuff.

    But it all make sense, and is in line wlth all known facts från 1971,.

    I have always had it, i think, but some years ago i reailized that the location could not be accurate.

    In the memory I lied at my bed in a room i shared with my brother, I very well remember were the bed stood, and where my brother stood, He was standing on the floor,

    But one day i realized that no, there was no bed at that place in 1971, and indeed i was not living in the same room as my brother then,

    In spring 1968 i had got a room of my own. And the place where the bed has been – there was now a dresser there. But in the the memory the setting wss as it hade happened before late spring 1968.

    But the topic of the converation touched om things directy related to what happened in 1971.

    So i have combined a (probably ) totally true memory från 1971 with a location that fits the period before late spring 1968.

    I think of that when witness psycolgists try to “disprove” traumatic memories from childhood by sayning things like “but she says the sun was shining, but here is a weather report that shows that this day was cloudy” That does not, of course, prove a thing, The basic content of a memory could be accurate even if such details are wrong.

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    1. Wouldn’t it make sense that you would place – or re-place – the memory is a setting where you had so much opportunity to talk to your brother about important things? It seems so totally normal to me.

      And yes, you are right. The basic memory is right, bt a detail is wrong.

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  3. I truly believed there was a green dragon in the woods by the farm where the cult had its headquarters. I “saw” it many times. Hallucination? Dissociative state? Drugs? Costume? It was real to me and my young alters were terrified. An adultish alter was fascinated with it.

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    1. Or simply, they told you there was a dragon in the woods. You could have been hypnotized into believing you had seen it for yourself. Little kids believe grown-ups. It’s frightening how easy it is to deceive children.

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