It’s hard to explain what multiplicity looks like to people who aren’t multiple and don’t have friends who are multiple. I think many people imagine that all multiples are like Eve in “Three Faces of Eve” or Tara in “The United States of Tara.”
Some are, of course. Kim Noble, who I blogged about at https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/12/19/kim-noble-activist-artist/, is an example. Her alters have very different personalities, she has no co-consciousness, and the switches are very obvious. But there are many who are not cut from the same cookie cutter. Actually, there probably are hundreds and hundreds of cookie cutters!
It is hard to explain when alters are not that different in their demeanor and when they switch seamlessly. Or when there is one alter who is usually out and others speak and act through the “host.” Or when there are a group of alters all the same age, or alters who are identical twins or triplets.
Most of the time people don’t even notice the subtle shifts and may believe you are just pretending to be multiple. Perhaps they suspect you are seeking attention, or believe you have been persuaded that you have DID by an unscrupulous therapist. If they are kinder, they may think that you are now totally integrated.
A few years ago I came across a beautiful short video on Youtube called “500 Years of Female Portraits in Western Art.” Women’s faces morph into each other every two or three seconds. In just under three minutes, the video shows portraits by artists ranging from Leonardo da Vinci to Pablo Picasso.
I thought it was a great metaphor for subtle switching. I’ve shown it to several people who said, “Oh, now I get it!” And it is so lovely that I enjoy watching it over and over.
“500 Years of Female Portraits in Western Art” is at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUDIoN-_Hxs. The music is Bach’s Sarabande from Suite for Solo Cello No. 1 in G Major performed by Yo Yo Ma. You can see a list of the artwork at http://www.maysstuff.com/womenid.htm.